Ever since Demi Moore was wrapped up tightly for eight years with Ashton Kutcher, sixteen years her junior, I have been fascinated by the older woman/younger man scenario. Of course, we as a society see that age flip with older men/younger women all the time, which barely warrants a raised eyebrow, and I, for one, am so bored of it (yawn). I think that is why the movie The Graduate was such a massive hit. Mrs Robinson (Anne Bancroft), an iconic older woman, seduces young Benjamin (Dustin Hoffman), a recent university grad, and sparks fly. But off-screen, in the early 2000s, with Demi and Ashton, their coupling was as rare as a rainbow-coloured unicorn.

Now, sure, Demi is not your average 9 to 5, Walmart shopping, monthly book club, carpooling gal (ok, that might not be average either). Back in the day, she was what the media would describe as Hollywood Royalty, a crowned Princess of the celebrity Brat Pack. Perhaps Ashton was just a pendulum swing from Demi's ex Bruce Willis eight years her senior, but if so, I say nicely done, Demi.

Two decades later, this off-beat relationship dynamic has become way more popular despite the social stigma amplified by popular media and the concept of "cougar and toyboy."

A few examples.

The first is my most yummy, Hugh Jackman and his wife Deborra Lee Furness, 13 years Jackman’s senior. Why I love this so much as they have been married 25 years…and…he’s the delicious, hunky Wolverine.
French President Emmanuel Macron and Brigitte Trogneux. Age difference 25 years. Leave it to the French, trailblazing sexual non-conformity.
Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas. Age difference: 10 years
Actors Lisa Bonet and Jason Momoa. Age difference: 12 years
Actors Tilda Swinton and Sandro Kopp. Age difference: 18 years
And then, of course, you have Madonna and Cher. They hold a PhD-like level in this sport, as almost all of their relationships are with much, much younger men. And at the time of writing this (which might change by the time I hit publish), Cher’s new boyfriend (and I stress the word boy) is 40 years her junior.

So, let's unravel the mystery with this lowdown on the benefits of dating an older woman as I happily did a little "field research" of my own.

In Praise of Older Women

5 Reasons Why Young Men Are Dating Older Women

1. Older Women Have a Lot to Teach Younger Men

Yes, I am talking about sex. Most younger girls just haven't learned the tricks of the trade yet. But in their defence, perhaps they haven't had to. But we older women know things, many things. Sex isn't like riding a bike. There is a lot more to learn and master once you start pedalling. It is more like tennis. You are only going to improve your game by playing with someone better than you. Young men have told me they are eager to learn. They are fearless, more sensitive, and less burdened by society's pressures that men of my age seem to be entombed in. They’re excited to play outside their comfort zones. They ask questions, talk about their feelings, fluidity, and their therapist, and they are super eager to please.

2. Older Women Are Worldlier Than Young Ones

An older woman has been to many places, tasted life, and done a variety of things. In short, she is way more interesting to talk to. Sorry if that offends you 22-year-olds out there, but you've got a ways to go before you're as interesting as you think you are.

3. They Can Keep It Discreet

Older women are way less prone to drama and gossip…way less. Don't get me wrong, gentlemen. You.. young lov-aaahs will be discussed, dissected and bragged about in delicious, envy-evoking detail, but only to their inner circle. And not beyond. They are more prudent and discreet. And, if you're just in it for the sex, here's the good news, they are likely less emotionally invested in the whole thing than you are.

4. They Are More Independent

This, I've been told, is very sexy to younger men. My generation of men were/are often uncomfortable with women making more money than them. This new generation of men, not so much. Older women have likely established themselves in a career, so not only is she more financially independent, but more emotionally independent too. So know this, she is there not because she requires you but rather because she desires you. So that I’m clear, I am not talking Sugar-Mammas, who, like their predecessors, the Sugar Daddies, kept young women around by lavishly paying for them. No judgement, btw. All's fair between two consenting adults.

5. Way Less Drama

They are not interested in drama, not even a bit. She gets enough of that from her teenage daughter. And sure, you might be just a large plate of crack cocaine for her ego, but there will be no emotional freak-outs when you have crossed some clear boundary. She will not be posting discreet photos you shared with her on Instagram or ranting about how you failed to give her an orgasm on TikTok. With nothing more than a coo, coo,ca-choo, she will just pack up her toys and go.

Well, that's what I have discovered. I could write a companion blog about what makes younger men so desirable to older women. But I believe it can easily be summed up in two words, “delicious and uncomplicated”. Yup, that’s the nugget.

Oh, one more reason why younger men like older women. She'll clean your room and make you dinner. Ba-ha-ha-ha!! Sorry guys. To quote professional cougar Jennifer Lopez, “I ain’t your mamma.”

In Praise of Older Women ~ 5 Reasons Young Men Are Dating Older Women