Posts tagged life after divorce
Life Lessons I Learned Against My Will: Or Why I’m Deeply Suspicious of “The Process”

There comes a point in life where you assume you’ve learned the major lessons. You’ve survived bad perms, heartbreaks, friendship implosions, jobs that aged you permanently, men who communicate exclusively through silence, and at least one phase where you thought acid-wash jeans and neon leg-warmers were a good idea.

You think “Surely now I get to coast.”

Apparently not. Because this year felt like the universe handed me a group project called Unexpected Personal Growth and despite repeatedly saying, “No thanks, I’ve already suffered enough for the curriculum,” I was enrolled anyway.

So in honor of another rotation around the sun, or as a friend of mine describes it, the anniversary of my epic vaginal descent, here are the lessons I’ve learned, relearned, ignored, relearned again, and may still completely fail to apply in real time.

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Lessons Learnt From A Broken Heart - In Search of Mr Darcy Edition

There are few people on this earth, especially if you are over 40, who can say they've never had their heart broken. It’s almost a rite of passage. Heartbreak has tremendous power. It can hurt, enlighten, destroy, strengthen, shatter, sadden, transform, illuminate, empower and…change lives. It has inspired countless songs that can rip your heart right out of your chest (shout out to Leonard Cohen). It has left poets broken and beautiful, and it has been pretty much the plot in every rom-com I’ve ever obsessively wept over (shout out to Nicholas Sparks and The Notebook.)

I mean, if you are living life, how can you avoid it?

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